It's Good to Blame Yourself (...sometimes)

It's always good to look for opportunities for growth.

When bad things happen, we're often told it's not our fault and that we shouldn't blame ourselves. That's all well and good, but sometimes when responsibility for the blame is not so clear, I think a different perspective may be more productive (so long as your self-esteem is intact). Assuming responsibility for things that may not objectively be your fault can be good because it provides an excellent opportunity for an excuse in improving yourself.

Even when things are clearly not your fault, you can still try to rationalize far-out factors that you could've/should've/would've taken care of if only you were a better person. You can make sense of the situation by thinking about how you can improve yourself from this experience by analyzing your weaknesses. This type of focus will also distract yourself from any discontent that you may feel.

Obviously, this does not work in all situations. Sometimes, the fault clearly lies with other people and there really is nothing you could have done. But nevertheless, I find that these instances are a lot rarer than most people think. Besides, it's always nice to take responsibility for things and put the control back in our own hands.